Radical acceptance to our rescue
The idea that we can fix perceived flaws in our partners, friends, parents, and grown children remains a promise of something that is unobtainable. A healthy dose of ego often convinces us that our way of looking at things is right, but if we try to correct someone else it usually backfires. Most of the times it implies that we are more enlightened and that we have a deeper knowledge of what’s best. The other person may get the message that he or she isn’t good enough and will in every probability become resentful. A safer approach would be to look inward to fix the problem. This involves the recognition that you will never be in sync about some matters. We have to accept the fact ‘We have this permanent difference, but we need to learn to live with each other’.