Yeah, THAT person

Being in a meaningful relationship is something we all long for. I think we all want that special somebody who can appreciate us for who we are—not how we look; somebody that makes us laugh and comforts us when we cry; somebody who appreciates our quirks and loves our imperfections; somebody who treats us the same whether we’re at our best or at our worst; somebody that gets us excited and somebody we find ourselves naturally drawn to; somebody that doesn’t hold us back but gets us to where we want to be quicker; somebody that we would call our best friend and lover. Yeah, that person.
But I also think that there is far too much pressure to get into a relationship far too fast. Like being single is a bad thing? …It becomes an obsession for way too many people way too early in their lives – as if you get bonus points for getting in a relationship as early in your life as possible! My question is this: What should we really be obsessing overlooking at the grand scheme of things: Getting in a relationship now and figuring out the rest later? Or figuring out the rest now and getting in a relationship when the time’s right?  I would argue the latter.

I think too many people put their focus in the wrong place. What I tend to see happens far too often is people trying really hard to get in a relationship (to the point of it being their only obsession) for the sake of being in a relationship… and one of several things tend to happen:
– They get in a relationship with somebody who is not right for them just for the sake of being in a relationship… and then have bad relationship experiences.
– They start changing who they are to become somebody they’re not in order to impress somebody they want to be with.
– They get lust confused with love and make rash decisions which end up dramatically changing their lives like having a baby.
– They get involved with somebody who is not good for them and takes them down the wrong path – deteriorating their life.
– They start to lose sight of their passions, long-term goals, and ambitions and never fulfill the true potential of what they are capable of achieving.
– They burn bridges with the people around them who they really care about by forgetting/ ignoring/ ditching them and obsessing over their relationship.
– They settle for somebody who is just an “okay” match, stay with them for a decent amount of time, realize that they’re not the best match, but end up being stuck with them because they don’t know how to get out of it or break it off – leaving them together out of fear of hurting the other person, being single again after being in a relationship for so long, or scared of what other people might think.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that relationships are bad and that you should avoid getting in them. In fact, getting into meaningful relationships is one of the most important and significant things that can happen to a person throughout their lifetime. Finding a person that genuinely connects with you and the entirety of who you are can be unmatched by anything else that happens to you throughout your lifetime.

Source - The internet (I don't recall where I had read the above article, but it touched me and taught me a lot. Made me look in a different direction and gave me a different perspective.)

GOD'S PURPOSE

God wants you to know that God has an important purpose for you, and made everything possible for you to succeed.

That's not to say it's an easy purpose, or a convenient one. It might very well seem hard or even impossible, but it only looks that way. The truth is that one day you will look back and see how all the pieces fit together. And how your life has been a complete and utter success.

TWO HALVES

Today I am reminded of what enlightened me a few years back.. and lead me into the memory lane - An old lady who used to sit opposite a Masjid near Milan subway in Mumbai.

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*Giving is living.* Give someone a smile to hang on to, give a hand to hold on to; give a shoulder to cry on, give a reason to lean on..

Moving on from there:

Charity. Just a good food for thought.

*A small charity is no big deal. It's a basic human duty.* Do it individually. One for one, one on one, ends up helping one and all. (Don't donate to NGO and wash your hands off, you be a one-man / one-woman NGO yourself and make the difference!)

I see this thus:

This world is divided broadly into 2 categories.

No, not male and female; not rich and poor; not 'ucch' and 'neech'; not 'harijan' and 'girijan'; not even Hindu and Muslim... *it's just the 'haves' and 'have-nots'.*

*Two halves.*

Haves and have-nots are not necessarily the rich and the poor.  Haves are resourceful, viable, feasible and utilitarians. Have-nots are downtrodden, helpless, suppressed and needy.
*They both co-exist and co-exit.*

And hence,

Goodness of a 'have' is to GIVE so that a 'have-not' can LIVE. Godliness of a 'have-not' is to BLESS so that a 'have' can feel the BLISS.

If every 'have' takes care of one 'have-not', each of the have-nots is taken care of. And there by, half the world is taken care of.

And the other half?

It can count its blessings.

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Isn't it then, a win-win situation?

Pick one. Make one. Today itself. His/her tomorrow is not far away. It's in your closed palms. Just open it. And hand it over. 🌻

"We are not born as humans, we are born to be humans."

Let's be.
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The above write up is shared by a dear friend of mine Mr. Manohar Nayak - Bombay.