Don't get me wrong

I am not saying that relationships are bad and that you should avoid getting in them. 

In fact, getting into meaningful relationships is one of the most important and significant things that can happen to a person throughout their lifetime.

Finding a person that genuinely connects with you and the entirety of who you are can be unmatched by anything else that happens to you throughout your lifetime.

But sadly most of the times in life this does not happen. Fairy tales are not always real. Even in the most beautiful relationships there are discords, misjudgements, fights etc. but how soon we get out of these and how much efforts we apply to resolve the differences makes all the difference.

Life itself is not beautiful it is all about how beautiful we want it to be.

Don't get me wrong.......

Be Yourself

You are special, and there is no need to want to be special.

You are special, you are unique—existence never creates anything less than that. 

Everyone is unique, utterly unique. There has been no person like you before, and there will never be a person like you again.

Consciousness has taken this form for the first time and the last time, so there is no need to try to become special: you already are.

If you are trying to be special, you will become ordinary. Your very effort is rooted in misunderstanding. It will create confusion because when you try to become special, you have taken one thing for grated—that you are not special. 

You have become ordinary already. You have missed the point

Give The SELF a chance

We all have a higher Self within; we were born with it. Sometimes we get a fleeting glimpse of the Self when we spontaneously act out of unconditional love. Recall a sudden wave of empathy engulfing you at the sight of a man shivering in the cold that prompted you to give him clothes; picking up a wounded animal on the road; the deep sense of fulfilment on rescuing someone in trouble. These arouse an incredible flow of energy and feelings within.

Momentarily, you rise from an ordinary state of being to an extraordinary one. The shift is spontaneous, unintentional and instinctive. You forget who you are: your status, position, your miseries; you act without assigning reason and logic. Neither do you expect reward or recognition in return. These are moments when your higher Self takes over.

The Self is a vast storehouse of positive energy that propels us to extend ourselves unconditionally. We drop our masks: our ego-self, the finite, entrenched in inhibitions, doubts, hesitations. But no sooner than the ego takes over, we again restrain ourselves from reaching out. Our conditioned mind constitutes our ego-self that endorses judgements, evaluations, biases, prejudices, predispositions. We gathered all this ignorantly and continue this way out of sheer habit, impeding manifestation of the Self.

The Self is the internal abundance that can be realized at our will any time. It has the power to nourish, nurture, absorb and inspire. All we need is to have faith and surrender our ego-self to the higher Self.

Give The SELF a chance.

A SPLITTING HEADACHE - sharing a post which I received and relate to.

*A SPLITTING HEADACHE*... 

The proprietor of a coffee shop had been busy all day. Being Saturday, it was very crowded & the customers were just unending. He had been on his toes since morning. Towards the evening he felt a splitting headache surfacing. As the clock ticked away, his headache worsened. Unable to bear it, he stepped out of the shop leaving his staff to look after the sales. He walked across the street to the Chemist, to buy himself a painkiller to relieve his headache. He swallowed the pill & felt relieved. He knew that in a few minutes he would feel better. As he strolled out of the shop, he casually asked the salesgirl, "Where is Mr Savarkar (the Chemist)? He's not at the cash counter today!" The girl replied, "Sir, Mr Savarkar had a splitting headache & said he was going across to the coffee shop. He said a cup of hot coffee would relieve him of his headache." 

The man's mouth went dry & he mumbled, "Oh! I see." This is a typical case of looking outside ourselves for something that we have within us. How strange but true! The chemist relieves his headache by drinking coffee & the coffee shop owner finds relief in a pain relieving pill! 

A man hunts across the lengths & breadths of the universe to find peace. 

Eventually he finds it in his heart & realizes that peace is really a state of mind. 

He undertakes many a pilgrimage to find God. 

Eventually he realizes that God is the in- dweller of the heart.

Life has its own ways of teaching us.....Amazing.