LIFE MUDRAS

Care or control ?? I was in a  a consultation with a middle age couple.They started fighting right in front of me.  The upset husband said- See doc....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return..To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...! The care from one person was perceived as control by another ! Made me think...what is care and what is control?? How to identify them?? Soon I received the answer. I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears... After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...My daughter hugged me  and said-Papa ,you know why you got upset?  You were not  upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..! I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. ..I received my answer too... I was trying to co...

Let’s face it, your ego is too attached to your comfort zone. It is so used to the daily patterns, routines, and habits that it doesn’t want anything to change. It’s clingy. And the attachment feels safe, but it’s also smothering.  No change means no growth—and no growth means slow death.  What the ego doesn’t see is that right outside of the comfort zone , is the learning zone. And time spent in the learning zone leads to growth— and growth means life. The first step is to spend time understanding the ego and learning how we can remove it from our everyday experiences.  Because ego, distracts us from important learning opportunities—both in success and in failure—(so that it can stay inside of your comfort zone) and keeps us focused solely on ourselves and how we compare to others.  If we want to maximize our potential, however, the focus should not be on you v/s. them, but rather it should be on you v/s. where you were before. Remember that the eg...

I’m sure you have challenges, things that you wish you could overcome, or things that you could get over… Stop.  Stop trying to get over it.  Because if we’re trying to get over all of the problems in our lives then our entire lifetimes are just going to be trying to get over problems—that’s all there is going to be.  And that is not a life to be proud of.  Instead, find those challenges in your life and use them!  Use them and turn them into an opportunity. No matter how spiritually enlightened you are, or how many times you’ve thought about death and think you are okay with it, you will grieve the life you could have lived when you are dying.  You are losing the person you could have become, the things you could have done, the things you could have made with your life—you are losing that.  And there’s no way to get around that. Death is actually not a scary thing.  The scary thing is living life without a passion and then realizi...

When you look at the surface of the ocean, you can see waves coming up and going down. You can describe these waves in terms of high or low, big or small, more vigorous or less vigorous, more beautiful or less beautiful. You can describe a wave in terms of beginning and end, birth and death. That can be compared to the historical dimension. In the historical dimension, we are concerned with birth and death, more powerful, less powerful, more beautiful, less beautiful, beginning and end and so on. Looking deeply, we can also see that the waves are at the same time water. A wave may like to seek its own true nature. The wave might suffer from fear, from complexes. A wave may say, ‘I am not as big as the other waves,’ ‘I am oppressed,’ ‘I am not as beautiful as the other waves,’ ‘I have been born and I have to die.’ The wave may suffer from these things, these ideas. But if the wave bends down and touches her true nature she will realize that she is water. Then her fear and ...