GOD'S PURPOSE

God wants you to know that God has an important purpose for you, and made everything possible for you to succeed.

That's not to say it's an easy purpose, or a convenient one. It might very well seem hard or even impossible, but it only looks that way. The truth is that one day you will look back and see how all the pieces fit together. And how your life has been a complete and utter success.

TWO HALVES

Today I am reminded of what enlightened me a few years back.. and lead me into the memory lane - An old lady who used to sit opposite a Masjid near Milan subway in Mumbai.

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*Giving is living.* Give someone a smile to hang on to, give a hand to hold on to; give a shoulder to cry on, give a reason to lean on..

Moving on from there:

Charity. Just a good food for thought.

*A small charity is no big deal. It's a basic human duty.* Do it individually. One for one, one on one, ends up helping one and all. (Don't donate to NGO and wash your hands off, you be a one-man / one-woman NGO yourself and make the difference!)

I see this thus:

This world is divided broadly into 2 categories.

No, not male and female; not rich and poor; not 'ucch' and 'neech'; not 'harijan' and 'girijan'; not even Hindu and Muslim... *it's just the 'haves' and 'have-nots'.*

*Two halves.*

Haves and have-nots are not necessarily the rich and the poor.  Haves are resourceful, viable, feasible and utilitarians. Have-nots are downtrodden, helpless, suppressed and needy.
*They both co-exist and co-exit.*

And hence,

Goodness of a 'have' is to GIVE so that a 'have-not' can LIVE. Godliness of a 'have-not' is to BLESS so that a 'have' can feel the BLISS.

If every 'have' takes care of one 'have-not', each of the have-nots is taken care of. And there by, half the world is taken care of.

And the other half?

It can count its blessings.

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Isn't it then, a win-win situation?

Pick one. Make one. Today itself. His/her tomorrow is not far away. It's in your closed palms. Just open it. And hand it over. 🌻

"We are not born as humans, we are born to be humans."

Let's be.
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The above write up is shared by a dear friend of mine Mr. Manohar Nayak - Bombay.

CARE OR CONTROL

Care or control ??

I was in a  a consultation with a middle age couple.They started fighting right in front of me.  The upset husband said- See doc....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return..To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...!

The care from one person was perceived as control by another !

Made me think...what is care and what is control?? How to identify them??

Soon I received the answer.

I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...
After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...My daughter hugged me 
and said-Papa ,you know why you got upset?  You were not  upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..!

I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. ..I received my answer too... I was trying to control her under the disguise of care...that caused the conflict ....

If I really 'care' from someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person...I will keep searching different ways to help him..

If I am struggling in any relationship...I need to closely observe if there is any subtle  control hidden behind my apparent care...because

Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego...

Control cuts...Care connects ...

Control hurts...Care heals...

Keep caring for people but dont control them ... because

Often people are not wrong...they are just 'different'...

Keep caring... 

EGO.................the sticky thing

Let’s face it, your ego is too attached to your comfort zone. It is so used to the daily patterns, routines, and habits that it doesn’t want anything to change. It’s clingy.

And the attachment feels safe, but it’s also smothering.  No change means no growth—and no growth means slow death.  What the ego doesn’t see is that right outside of the comfort zone , is the learning zone. And time spent in the learning zone leads to growth—and growth means life.

The first step is to spend time understanding the ego and learning how we can remove it from our everyday experiences.  Because ego, distracts us from important learning opportunities—both in success and in failure—(so that it can stay inside of your comfort zone) and keeps us focused solely on ourselves and how we compare to others.  If we want to maximize our potential, however, the focus should not be on you v/s. them, but rather it should be on you v/s. where you were before.

Remember that the ego will do everything it can to convince you to stay comfy and cozy right where you are with the routine and habits you already have—rise above it and let your ego get a little uncomfortable.  The challenges that are brought forth in the learning zone are the facilitators for growth and without them, your life will be smothered from achieving it’s full potential.  Are you ready to give your ego a kick?